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≡ How to Make Love ≡

 
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When Are You in Love?

There is one difficulty that besets a young person who seeks for love. Like the gold-miner who comes across a large lode of quartz streaked with a substance that looks like gold but which later, on assay, turns out to be iron pyrites or "fool's gold," the lover is apt to come across a girl with whom he thinks he is in love but who later turns out to be only another person. This is only an infatuation. It is a sudden flaring up of love and a sudden dying down of it. The trouble is that its symptoms are exactly the same as true love. The same catch in the throat, the same aching void in the heart in an absence, the same overwhelming surge to the lover, the same passionate responses in an embrace and a kiss are present in an infatuation as are in true love. The only difference comes not in the quality but in the time consumed. Where an infatuation is a mater of the minute, true love is a matter of a lifetime. Yet, how are we to tell the difference between an infatuation and true love at the onset of the love affair?


 
Some people react to disillusioning infatuations healthily. They allow them to roll off their backs, forget them immediately and go on in the search for true love. Others, more sensitive than the rest, brood disconsolately over the loss of what they thought was true love, become hypochondriacs and suffer torture and agony. Ofttimes, they allow their sorrow to prevent them ever from loving again. That, in most cases, accounts for our multitudes of bachelors and spinsters. At some time in their lives, they allowed themselves to succumb to an infatuation, fell away from it and grieved for the rest of their lives, vowing that they would never be caught in the same situation and swearing off the opposite sex entirely, the while they treasured, in memory, the picture of their first great love who disillusioned them. How, then, are we to know what is infatuation and what is true love?